If you ask the average person on the street to list “primal emotions,” I’d venture that anger would be one of the first examples they offer. I think we automatically connect a primal state with anger because anger’s power is more reminiscent of instinct than sentiment. It’s an emotion that can instantaneously engulf our entire being—a red hot feeling that can send all rational thought and genuine self-interest down the toilet in a nanosecond. While other emotions have their physical hold, anger can grip us in a way few others can.
How do we deal with anger? What do we do with this naturally occurring emotion when it’s not a matter of survival?
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We all have the opportunity to experience greater levels of connection and satisfaction within our relationships and if there’s a lack somewhere then something has to change. Often times we get overwhelmed by the prospect of repairing relationships or taking them to the next level because of the perceived effort involved and significant emotional investment. But it needn’t be the case.
Some of the best advice we could ever heed is to start small. Grand gestures of love and appreciation are only ever momentary, but our attitude towards one another remains consistently present. And the way we choose to set up small habitual indicators of how much another individual means to us directly affects the depth of that relationship.
Ramit Sethi shares one such example in his blog. Perhaps it’s time to reassess what really makes the difference.
Today, we get to enjoy 2 things: Ramit’s amazing advice on a happy relationship, and the fact that I started a business where I can write a blog post calling my own advice “amazing” and send it to millions of monthly readers. I want to share something I learned from my parents about love.
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Perspective is a powerful factor in keeping us on track on our way to success. Often times we get caught up in the whirlwind of our daily activity only to sacrifice what truly matters. It’s easy to get distracted from the attitudes, actions and activities that add value for those things which don’t, particularly when we are constantly in reactionary mode. It doesn’t help that we live in a society that is constantly competing for our attention to strive from one external measure of success to another, never truly arriving at what we seek.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. The awareness that we are only here for a finite amount of time can dramatically change the way we approach our lives. When we cease seeking to please everyone else’s criteria of what life should be like and are present to the moment we begin realising that we have a choice in the outcomes we experience.
Susie Moore shares some insight around the 5 biggest regrets people have before they die, and provides a simple exercise at the end worth completing to gain perspective. After all, we deserve to live life to the full.
Want to hear the strangest thing on earth? Death is perhaps the most constructive fact of our existence. Being aware of death throughout your life can beget the healthiest attitude: one of perspective. Countless people throughout history knew this too.
There’s a common misconception that happiness is contingent on us achieving certain outcomes. We are sold a perception that if we drive the right car, live in the right location, have a certain lifestyle then we’ll be happy. It’s no wonder that the rate of depression is at an all time high and rising. Somewhere along the way we lost our bearings and wound up with an internal compass that no longer points to true north.
Happiness has been and will always be an inside job. The measures that are imposed upon us by the external world are no more than marketing gone mad. We owe it to ourselves to wake up and quit the game of comparison. After all, happiness begins with self and is amplified when we share graciously with others. Here are 5 tips to make it happen today.
Though I wish it were as simple as slurping up a green juice, making a quinoa salad, and calling it a happy day, it goes much deeper than that. Fortunately, happiness is like a muscle – the more you work it, the stronger it becomes.
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If you’ve ever felt anxious about not meeting the grade or being found out, you’re not alone. It’s a fear that unconsciously inhabits everyone’s thoughts, the commonly unspoken concern amongst most professionals, and a limiting perspective when it comes to accomplishing greater levels of success. It doesn’t help that we’ve been groomed since a young age to believe that in order to achieve, we must be knowledgeable, well skilled and confident in our role. The problem is we are adopting a limited perspective when we approach our lives and certainly our careers this way.
Success and accomplishment are birthed from a place of the unknown. Every individual who accomplishes something worthwhile in life has had to overcome uncertainty, adopt to challenges and increase their skillset along the way. It’s the exact opposite of the preconceived idea above, because the only way we become competent in our roles is to constantly be learning and growing. The quicker we embrace that, the quicker we can give ourselves permission to scuff our knees and keep going.
Mary Jaksch sheds some insight into how to reset our mindset when it comes to the way we interpret and experience success.
Success will never be a big step in the future; success is just a small step taken now. ~Jonatan Mårtensson Can you feel that twist in your belly? That fear in your heart? The voice in your head that tells you you’re not up to the job?
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The more you surround yourself with high quality relationships the more you begin to see consistent themes and threads in the mindsets of those who accomplish much.
I had a conversation yesterday behind the scenes, whilst waiting to be interviewed on the truth about coaching, around how often we make our goals more difficult to accomplish by our internal dialogue and the emotions we associate to our efforts. If we took a moment to think about it, accomplishing anything worthwhile is going to require effort and the last thing we need to do is be the our own worse critic.
Learning to be a self starter, champion of our own effort, and empowerer of our own state is critical to our success. If we are selecting empowering thoughts and feelings, we build momentum in the direction of our desired outcomes. We must start by teaching our bodies how to access positive internal states through adopting great physiology. A simple exercise is to think of a time when the win was in sight, where there was a feeling of excitement, exhilaration and the victory was assured. Fully associate into the memory and notice the feelings surging through your body. The more we access these states in our day the closer we move to our goals.
Stephen Guise further explains how the internal dynamics of our mindset affect our outcomes and how to balance the scales in our favour.
Meet Grimble. Grimble has a funny name, but he still has dreams. These are the heights that Grimble would like to reach in life: Enjoy a muscular, tone, and healthy body Become a world class programmer and software developer Become the President of the United States If Grimble could do these things, he’d be pretty satisfied with himself.
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